Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Everett Tillman Warnock

As we get older, it’s easy to forget – a fact of life we all face. Some things, we want to forget. Others… not so much.

I have very fond memories of my grandparents – in particular, my grandfather on my dad’s side. Everett Tillman Warnock. We called him “Papa”. Mom, dad, my sister, my two brothers and I piled into the 2-door Plymouth Fury III (one of us typically asleep in the back window ledge…) and traveled the six hours to Waycross, GA to see them at least twice a year. I spent many summers there – running barefoot through the dirt streets, fishing, and helping out in the shop.

Recently, my grandfather was posthumously honored by my cousin, Billy (or “Bill”, as he’s now known in professional circles) and his wife, Becky. There’s now a study hall named after him at Auburn. He was an out-of-the-limelight kind of man - and would have been far too humble to want or expect something like this. However, no one is more deserving.

If you didn’t know my grandfather, and you simply looked at his resume, you’d probably wonder… “Huh?” “A study hall?” “For a man with a 6th grade education?” However, if you knew my grandfather, you’d know that a more fitting tribute couldn’t exist. With some help from *my* dad, let me reflect…

Papa was born in 1903. He grew up on a farm, and married a 15 year old farm girl, Edith (“Granny”, to us) when he was 19. They raised 6 children (all born at home). He worked as a farmer, drove road machinery, sold furniture and retired with his own furniture repair business (which, to him, meant going to work for himself.)

For someone with “only” a 6th grade education – he was brilliant. I’m guessing he didn’t know what the word “Algebra” meant, but he could do complex math problems in his head, and solved logic and algebraic problems with a pencil and a napkin. He loved puzzles! I remember him getting his first calculator (very late in life) and being amazed at what it would do. He had a remarkable memory, and could name all 159 counties in Georgia. He knew the county seat, population and neighboring counties of every one.

He drove a furniture route - with hundreds of customers. He knew every single one by name. He also knew their families, and he knew the personal family situation of each one. When he started in 1942, he was making $18/week. He worked a six-day week and yet, he always had time to stop along the route and, with my dad in tow, take time out for a little fishin’ along the way. He drove over a million miles during his career, commuting 100 miles/day late in life to a job in Homerville, GA, and had only one serious accident the entire time (when he hit a cow in the middle of the road!)

His grandfather fought in the Civil War. He used to tell us stories about his grandfather and about his life growing up. Stories abounded – from “Huck Finn”-like stories of him rafting down the river to the story of his uncle whose ingrown toe hurt so bad that he shot it off (yep!) – he was always telling stories!

He was a tinker and an inventor. If he needed a “custom” part for a piece of furniture or a equipment, he made it – by hand. He rebuilt organs– blowing each of the little metal reeds to find one that was “out of tune.” He built a beautiful piece of furniture for me – a small chest - out of scrap wood, cigar boxes and metal tobacco cans. It’s a piece I’ll always cherish. His greatest invention (at least to us kids) was box with a squirrel’s tail in it (his “mongoose trap” (“the fastest animal alive”) that he used to scare customers, friends and family – anyone who even remotely showed an interest!

For the most part, he was skeptical of things he couldn’t see or understand. He doubted man landed on the moon (he was convinced that it was staged.) He witnessed the invention of television – something else he never understood (but that he enjoyed none-the-less!) He was around when they invented moving pictures (movies), the airplane (flown by the Wright brothers the year he was born), television, the refrigerator, WWI (he was too young to serve) and WWII (he was too old!), and remembered moving into his first house with indoor plumbing and a bathroom. And, despite being skeptical of things he couldn’t see or didn’t understand, he knew who God was, and what it meant to be a Christian. He joined Crawford Street Baptist Church in 1943, and served faithfully as a Deacon until he died in 1978, just shy of his 75th birthday.

So, as I read the plaque attached to the memorial for my grandfather, I realize that the words engraved there – “spirit, perseverance and a sense of purpose” really don’t do him justice. And yet, they describe him perfectly.

Monday, July 14, 2008

Baseball and being "Intentional"

One of the few downsides of being a Southerner and marrying a girl from “way up North” is that our extended families are *really* far apart. Kelly’s from Michigan, and most of her family is still there (the main exception being her sister, Jennifer, who migrated South like the rest of us normal folks …)

We try and make at least one or two pilgrimages to the north each year, and we started several years ago sending the kids up for a week or two during the summer to spend with “Poppa” (Kelly’s dad, Bill.) This year, William – our 9-year old – went for two weeks. Those that know Will know that he LOVES baseball (and every other sport imaginable), and Traverse City, MI affords him the opportunity to see a pretty good minor league team, the Beach Bums.

This year, Will came home with *5* baseballs (and an assortment of tiny bats, pennants and shirts) from the ballpark. When I asked him where he got them, he replied “I caught some, and then I went looking for more and found some and then I gave some away… And somebody gave me one, too.” In the end, he had more than he could carry! When I asked him why he gave some away, he said “…because some of the kids didn’t have any.”

Now, on the surface, I’ve got to admit – my FIRST thought was how proud I was of Will for being willing to give away his baseballs. (I’m always impressed (and, quite frankly, amazed) when he exhibits positive character traits, like sharing, when he has such trouble doing so at home with his brother, Robert!)

So what does this have do with “being intentional?” We don’t get the best results when we sit back and wait for things to come our way. Sometimes, things will drop into our lap (remember Will’s first couple of balls?) He got much better results when he went out and intentionally looked for opportunities to find more balls. He found some. Someone gave him one. In the end, he had all he could carry. He ended up with far more than he started with and, more importantly, he found great satisfaction in giving some away.

Monday, July 7, 2008

Lauren's First Wakeboarding Experience

For those that are still waiting on the "Will" story about baseball - I'm working on it. For now, something a bit more lighthearted!

On Friday, July 4th, our friend Phyllis offered to teach Lauren how to wakeboard. After several attempts....here's what happened!




Hope you all had a great 4th! We did!

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Are you prepared to draw closer?

Matthew 5:4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

We’ll – I promised you something on being “intentional.” Unfortunately, life’s circumstances force us to adapt every now and then. This is one of those times.

Very early this past Sunday morning, Roger Davis was killed in a car accident in Camden. Most of you didn’t know Roger. Truth be know, I didn’t really know him either. However, I’ve known his dad, Rusty, since I was a teenager. I’ve known his uncle, Jimmy, since I was old enough to walk, and – to this day – count him and his wife, Amanda, as some of my closet friends. I’ve know Roger’s aunts and uncles and nieces and nephews. I’ve known Roger’s grandparents, Murray and Virginia (or – as I’ve always known them - “Mr. and Mrs. Smith”) over half of their life and all of mine. They’ve always treated me as part of their family and welcomed me into their home. I can’t think of anyone that embodies “family” anymore than they do.

So why has this tragedy affected me more than most others? In particular, why do I hurt for someone that I really didn’t know?

Part of my hurt is for his family. I know them well. Roger's grandparents have been married for 66 years. 96 children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and great-great-grandchildren make up the their family tree. In all those years of marriage, Roger’s death is the first death in the family.

I hurt for Rusty and Jean, for Jimmy and Amanda and for Mr. and Mrs. Smith in particular – I love them dearly, and can’t imagine what they’re going through right now.

Finally, I hurt for those that will reject Christ during this difficult time. When faced with up-close, personal, human tragedy – the loss of a loved one, for example – people are often faced with a choice. Will they draw closer to God, or will the push away? It’s easy to say “I’ll draw closer…” when it’s not personal – when it’s about someone else other than me. But what about when it’s in your face? When it’s about you?

We’ll all face that choice one day. Are you prepared to draw closer?